Feng Shui for Book Lovers: How to Pare Down a Library

Where's Dash? My kids seem to tolerate mess more than I do these days.

Where’s Dash? My kids seem to tolerate mess more than I do these days.

HouseLast month I decided once and for all that I was going to either get rid of some books or embrace what my life was becoming: a Grey Gardens kind of gorgeous.

As a writer, I had long taken solace in studies linking messiness to creativity. Oh the ways old magazines, paper clips, half-open books, unanswered mail and yesterday morning’s cereal bowl must be sparking fireworks in my brain! But with three other people in the house, and overflowing bookshelves set to topple, the center could no longer hold. All I yearned for was an empty room, maybe some curtains billowing from a sun-drenched window. Faced with this impossibility, I found myself, over the past several weeks, becoming one of those people who can’t stop talking about feng shui.

You know feng shui. The ancient Chinese art of balancing energy in spaces. The only way you might convince a husband to buy a bed with a tufted headboard. The theory behind what every family learns eventually: Hell is other peoples’ stuff. This was not the first time I welcomed the inexplicable power of space and energy into my life.

I first latched onto the ideas of feng shui a year before when it struck me that I had three different kinds of cinnamon in my cupboard and six different salts. I was experiencing what Germans call die Qual der Wahl (the torture of choices). A friend of mine had pressed a copy of Karen Kingston’s Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui: Free Yourself from Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Clutter Forever into my hand and I ended up removing at least two thirds of the items from my kitchen, which is apparently in the love center of my feng shui Bagua. Don’t ask me what this psycho juju actually means. All I know is that by clearing clutter, you make room for new energy to flow into your home. It must have worked, for within a week of decluttering the kitchen, I became a mom to a Finnish exchange student.

But the books were a different kind of trouble. To a writer, books aren’t objects or clutter – they are life blood. My lined shelves were a living diary of my reading life. I wasn’t sure how I was even going to remember what I had read, if I could be a writer without a house filled with physical books. The judgy houseguest in me tsk tsked. How could anyone get an image of who I am if they didn’t judge me by my books? And more importantly, how could I?

Naturally my first attempt at applying feng shui to the library yielded space for perhaps four more hardbacks, which I promptly filled up – and then some – over the next twelve months. But just a year later these shelves were filled to overflowing and I had found myself with a new problem. I was trying to write my first book. I was three chapters in, and I had started to believe that my packed library had taken on metaphorical meaning. There was no room on my shelves for anything new, no room in the world for this very weird idea I had to write a memoir through the lens of scent.

Then came Marie Kondo, Japan’s reigning tidiness expert, whose book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing already has 73 holds at my small-town Oregon library. She is everywhere these days, with her bright-eyed, doll face and nothing out of place, encouraging people to surround themselves only with objects that bring them joy. I adore her for one reason: She is a poster child for how to make your own particular mental illness into a business model. Her major feat for our culture is in finding a way to turn her OCD (I’m diagnosing here) come across as this lovely, embraceable lifestyle choice for you and, let’s hope, the people around you. Marie – I feel like I can call her Marie, we’re that close now – declutters by category, not by room. For books, she advises that you pull every volume out of a shelf in order to let it breathe and put them all on the floor.

So that’s what I did. For my second book-clearing feat, I removed every book from every bookshelf and sat there despondent in a pile of paper. I cried in this heap of books. Then I was tired, so I napped. But then, the real task: Hold each book in my hands and ask myself: Does this spark joy?

Do not open the book. Do not read the book. You ask the question and you build your discard piles accordingly.

Friends: I got rid of five sixths of my books. But what really slayed me wasn’t the number of books I was carrying in bags to Goodwill the next day. In harnessing the sense of joy I associated with the books I kept I was able to figure a couple of things out. For one, in the discarding, I found my chosen writing tribe – the writers I long to share a shelf with as opposed to the writers who I thought I should have read. Two: I made some peace with the realities of author longevity and the idea that not everything you write will hit (chucked one Franzen essay collection but kept the other). But the most revealing thing I discovered was that I had, without being aware of it, kept every memoir I had ever bought, as if this joyful connection were forged through genre alone.

The Books I Kept: My row of favorite memoir and personal writing, staring back at me, cheering me on.

The Books I Kept: My row of favorite memoir and personal writing, staring back at me, cheering me on.

Gone the useless thesauruses, away with The Elementary Particles! Goodbye to every Tom Robbins novel except Jitterbug Perfume! Sayonara to six hand-bound leather journals, each of which had only three pages hand-scrawled in them! Au revoir Jane Eyre! The purge was a clinic on my own processes, a chance to really understand who my influences were and what kind of distasteful writerly arrogance I was ready to put in the past. Did I really need two copies of T.C. Boyles Drop City? (No, just the signed one).

Marie says you must hold the book in your hand and you thank it for the role it played in your life, and then you Let It Go (cue the music). This wasn’t always easy. What yawner was I going to keep for when insomnia gripped me? (Moby Dick). And which one did I thank for putting me to sleep so often but bid a fond farewell to? (Sebald’s Campo Santo (Modern Library Paperbacks)). As two days wore on, I found myself retreating from another of my long-held beliefs – that I was somehow responsible for the books my children would encounter in the world. I was left with the conviction that if these books had found me, surely the universe would make sure that my children would find the ones they needed at the right point in their lives, too. Besides, if my mom could never interest me in the poems of Rod McKuen (Listen to the Warm, anyone?) by presence alone, surely my collection of German-language expressionist classics might find welcome elsewhere.

Meanwhile, in true before/after fashion, and much to my deep relief, the writing is going great. It is flying out of my head and through my fingers. I keep waiting for that moment of regret when I look up at the shelves with despair, when I know for sure that I trashed my treasure in some kind of misplaced spring cleaning mania, but it’s not like that at all. It’s more like seeing the bleachers from the field – a crowd cheering me on.

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117 thoughts on “Feng Shui for Book Lovers: How to Pare Down a Library

  1. Emily Grosvenor says:

    I live with small children. They bring much chaos, some lovely, some not, into my world. I’m trying to write a book right now and the more clutter there is, the more I feel like I’m stuck in a bowl of spaghetti. I respond to feng shui because it works for me. If the spaces are ordered, with only what I need and love, the idea holds that the good energy will fill those spaces. It’s working for me! How does it work? No idea. But the more I do it, the more it makes sense. Psychosmatic? Possibly. I don’t care. It’s worth trying.

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  2. CJ says:

    Boy did this post hit home. I was trying to clear shelves yesterday and a hour’s toil yielded only a box of 15 giveaway books. In like method you describe from the decluttering guru- holding each book and asking questions. I had never heard of Marie Kondo but I will be checking her out now. Hell is indeed other people’s stuff. My husband has as many books as I do stuffed into shelves all over the house. And our book choices rarely overlap. But maybe I will suggest this feng shui technique to him too.

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  3. Debbie Choplin says:

    I aspire to remove the clutter. I started this past autumn. I love antiques…so I’m having a little trouble letting go of some of those. And instructional books? I still have books from college days. ~sigh~
    Enjoyed reading about your adventure. I’ll be dropping back by often. 🙂


  4. Ivy Tender says:

    I am trying to rediscover and simplify my life after a recent loss and I have found small, minimalist living refreshing to the soul. I am always looking new ways to embrace it–like this one! Thank you.


  5. Elaine W. Lane says:

    Reblogged this on Pocket Full of Words and commented:
    I have read Marie Kondo’s book and it is different from most “decluttering, cleaning up” books I’ve read. I’m in the midst of two or three big projects now, but as soon as I’m able, I intend to start clearing out many things I’ve held onto for far too long, including books that I’ve kept forever but never read. I can’t wait! My new mantra, even when shopping is, “does this/will this bring me joy?” If not, then I don’t keep it or buy it. 🙂


  6. lizianblog says:

    great article – not heard of Marie Kondo before – but I love the idea of ‘holding a book to see if it sparks joy’… I’ve already tried to par down our book collection – and ended up just reorganising the shelves by genre… so now I’ve understood the ‘joy-sparking’ theory I’ll have another go… I think our local charity shops will be happy.


  7. Susan Helmus says:

    I can SO relate! I had so many bookshelves stuffed with books and then had to buy more book shelves to stuff with more books. After a few moves over the years I have widdled down that collection to about one and a half book shelves and for the most part I don’t miss them. I “released them” so someone else could enjoy them. I still love paper books over ereaders. But now I try to get them from the library, or borrow from friends, and then pass them on when I am done. I do still purchase reference books but try to be more discriminatory before I make the purchase and when I decide to “keep” the book. I loved your thought about not having room on the shelf for your own writing.


  8. Britney says:

    This post is great but it gives me anxiety! Sitting beside me is a bookshelf that is bursting with books that I need to go through and make the decision on who stays and who does not. I always have that battle where I wonder if a book might be important to me later on and that makes me keep almost all of them. I am moving soon and will need to go through my bookshelves. I think I will try your method.

    Thank you!
    All the best 🙂


    • Emily Grosvenor says:

      To be fair, it’s Marie Kondo’s method, I was just using it. And I suspect that it is your bookshelves giving you anxiety. I get it! Stuff drives me crazy, and it’s getting worse every year. By the time I’m done I’ll be living in a white box in the polar Arctic, I’m sure. Good luck!

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  9. johnberk says:

    Fantastic you got rid of the books. And gave them to people who would appreciate them. Thumbs up.
    In my case, I don’t have such problems,. My wife attacks everything that does not serve me. Clothes, books, electronics, etc. It is really a great feeling when you wake up in a clean, empty room. When I really long for books, I just go somewhere cozy to read and enjoy going through obscene quantities of them.


  10. gina amos says:

    Hi Emily, I’m in the process of selling my house, yep the kids have left and the dog died so downsizing is on the cards. But what to do with all my beautiful friends: my books. Off to the op shop and hope they go to home where they are appreciated and enjoyed.

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  11. sewkatiedid says:

    I love this quote, ” I adore her for one reason: She is a poster child for how to make your own particular mental illness into a business model.” My friends that have read her book and I joke about that.


  12. handwrittenonly says:

    Hmmm, I wish I could get Marie over! I culled my collection once…6 years ago but the bags I intended giving away are still in my garage! You have inspired me to absolutely march out with these to Good Will, WITHOUT taking a peek … in case I might find some gems 🙂 I will use her method for my bookshelves, both built-in and the ones in clothes closets (after my children left the nest).


  13. Nadya says:

    Such a good practice. I’ve also pared a few now and then, but then purchased more … And I’m sighing over those handbound journals …. I’ve been thinking of what I want for my personal copy of my Teacher training Initiate Book, and deciding how large …. have been using comp books for class notes.
    I also have Karen’s book on clutter clearing (daughter Mary says “you could WRITE the book! just do It!”)


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