The Rise and Fall of Our Failed Oregon Utopia

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HouseIn November 2008, after a week-long trip to interview in Portland, Salem and Eugene, my husband, Adam, took a job with an office in Salem, Oregon’s capital city.

Up until we moved to Oregon, we had been doing what was expected of us, taking all the right steps, following all the rules. In a few months, as the economy imploded, we would know we were some of the lucky ones – those just old enough to not be on the cusp of adulthood but to have one foot through the door.  We weren’t going to get stuck living with our parents or working menial jobs. We had the survivor’s guilt of people who know that if they were just a few years younger we might have been eating corn chips in the basement while staring at news of our unhappy generational prognosis – the first Americans whose standard of living would be less than our parents’.

We weren’t even sure what that meant anymore.

“I think it means that we won’t be able to count on getting a good job, having a nice place and feeling secure over the long-term,” Adam said.

“Maybe it just means we’ll have Ipads but no running water,” I said.

We felt, in many ways, like Indiana Jones slipping under a crashing rock door, just enough time to grab our hats.
So we escaped. We chose lifestyle over the city grind. We picked the majesty of the American West and the challenge of creating something new rather than pinning our hopes on what was already established. We picked plaid shirts over tailored suits, Goretex rain shells over pea coats, mud boots over stilettos. And though I know it wasn’t clear to me at the time, I now understand that five years of loving each other across landscapes had taught us that it is always – always – better to be the person who leaves than the one who stays.

We weren’t the first, and we wouldn’t be the last, to chuck it all and head to the Willamette Valley, a long, fertile swath cutting between mountains and the Pacific Ocean, a place the Clackamas Indians are thought to have called “The Valley of Sickness and Death.”[1]

We arrived in a snowstorm in December of 2008.

We introduced ourselves to the people we met on the street, the postman, the neighbors, with the kind of glee  generally practiced by bonneted ladies heading up the welcome wagon. Every time we would announce ourselves: Here we are! We’re new here! Share your lives with us!

A few generations of carpet-bagging Californians who sell their homes in the sunny state south of us had ensured that no one from Oregon will welcome newcomers to Oregon until they find out you’re not from California. We were more than likely to be met with a scowl or a menacing half-smile when we tried to explain what brought us to Oregon, only learning much later that the state motto was not the stated one: Alis volat propriis (She Flies with Her Own Wings), but Governor Tom McCall’s 1971 message to visitors: “I urge them to come and come many, many times to enjoy the beauty of Oregon. But I also ask them, for heaven’s sake, don’t move here to live.”

The Oregonians we were meeting – even the fake ones, who put the I Heart Oregon bumper stickers on the back of their pickups even as they wore a Phillies fan tee under their plaid shirts, welcomed us with crossed arms.

If I had done my research before we moved here, I would have discovered that Oregon – with its come-hither mountains, its lush valleys, its see-through-to-the-bottom lakes, its loamy, fog-drenched forests – has inspired more failed utopian experiments than any other state in the nation.  More than 300 separate communities have come together with a shared dream, planned for that dream, settled land to make it happen, built it from the ground up, thrived for one glorious moment (for all of 20 minutes or 20 years), and then fizzled or fallen.

The Aurora Colony, recognized as the first, got its start in Missouri with a Methodist commune organized under charismatic leader and mystic Wilhelm Keil, one of those crazy dreamers if there ever was one. Keil led a wagon train carrying his dead son, preserved in whiskey, across the Rockies, spurning Washington’s rainy Wilapia Bay for a swath of prairie about half an hour south of what is now Portland (smart man). They were pretty righteously awesome Christians, not shunning the rest of the world or living in seclusion, but building a community of hard work, clear minds, communal sharing and great music. There sure seemed to have a lot of rules for people who had the freedom to create something new – like a long list of creatives “do’s” and “don’t’s” for the new colonists based on the Golden Rule –  but for the most part, the Aurora Colony did it right. They found a way to put their ideals into effect, create something entirely new, and build a family life and a community of sharing far from their ancestral homes. The utopia collapsed, mostly out of inertia, shortly after the death of its founder in 1877.

All Oregon utopias went downhill from there, as far as I can tell. Oregonians still rail about the state’s most disturbing failed experiment. In 1985, leaders of the intentional community in Wasco County called Rajneeshpuram were arrested for deliberately poisoning a salad bar in the Columbia River town The Dalles in order to affect the outcome of a local election.  Led by Indian guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, the Rajneesh were a free-love society that had for several years lived in a tense detente with their Oregonian neighbors.

The Rajneesh were living the kind of free-love society we children of the late 1970s and early 1980s all knew about from nostalgic documentaries but had no real connection to because our moms were the Ally half of Kate & Alley. Even now, every time I hear the word Rajneesh I move from my usual feeling – wondering how my parents completely missed the countercultural boat of the 1960s and 1970s – to being thankful that they did.  The Rajneesh shunned marriage, promoted what I imagined to be strange, unencumbered, interstellar sex, and believed that families, marriages and other such constellations were anathema both to the holy and happy life. Clearly they knew a little something about how having kids changes things, for not a single child was born at the group’s Oregon community, which welcomed more than 30,000 visitors a year.

Hearing about other peoples’ failed experiments in Oregon doesn’t keep dreamers like us from conducting our own. For years, as we proceeded to do everything according to the book – college, career, quarter-life crisis, graduate school. But during longer drives, Adam and I would often lapse into the same conversations about the future, which had nothing to do with other peoples’ expectations of us. Often, we would imagine what we would name our children, with the conversation devolving into a game we called “Worst Name Ever.”

I always won that game, by the way. You’ll probably never see another Horatio Fellatio Diesburg on the playground with Aiden, Jayden or Brayden.

But more often, when we got tired of naming, Adam and I often talked about the kind of little organized community we would build together when our time came to settle down. Ours wasn’t a vision inspired by shared faith, or any particular need to live outside of society, but by a strong belief that life would be really fun if you lived as if you are at an extended summer camp. Having both grown up in smaller, suburban American towns, we could picture many alternatives to the single family, picket-fenced dwelling, and the most promising of them was an entirely possible intentional community where creativity and community were valued in equal measure. Together with four other couples, we would buy a piece of land, not too far from a larger city. Instead of spacing the properties so each would have its own, equal yardage, we would cluster the homes in a village on one fourth of the properties, leaving the remaining space for gardening, chicken-keeping, goat tending, nearby campsites for the kids, perhaps an outdoor grilling station, and all manners of imaginative modern homesteading.

It would work like this: Everyone would hold ownership over his/her dwelling. Each couple could have a few kids, and we would rotate who would be doing the on-site parenting, leaving the other members of the commune to work off the corporate grid or engage in free flow creative activity.  The living would happen in a communal center building placed between the domiciles. Never mind that neither of us had had a baby in the family since we were that baby. We had imagined parenting and adulthood as a kind of extended camping adventure, a shared bunk with a hearty wake-up song, a campus with stations for art and song and maybe even a little pottery studio. Next to the communal village, there would be a wide open expanse of natural land, owned by the group but left to be as it is. In this way, we were sure, we could ensure that we could live with our friends, know our farmers, never let full-time parenting quash our creative impulses, and save a discrete swath of earth from development, let it fill through with lavender and sagebrush.

But the dream was never-to-be, for many reasons, not the least of which was my problem of being a great self-starter but a terrible closer and the fact that we could not come up with four other couples we would want to spend that much time with. We would spend car rides debating the merits of our friends as possible community members.

“How about Mike and Serena?”

“Oh, he’d be great, but you know she’d just try to take the whole thing over and then make it into a blog or something,” Adam said.

“Okay, well how about Jen and Peter? The might be into trying something different,” I suggested.

“He’d totally do it, but I think we’d have a hard time getting her to watch our kids; they’re going to be that childless-by-choice couple that is always talking about how much they love kids,” Adam said.

“How about Bryce and Nadine?” I said, just to needle him.

“Oh hell no. Remember that time he started sleeping with my girlfriend when I was away for the summer?”

“What about Marielle and Luke?” I said, mentioning our hottest friend couple.

“They would be the first people I’d invite to 70’s key party, but they’re not for this,” Adam said.

In all of our discussions, we would always stumble upon one glaring thing keeping us from enacting our utopia. Usually, that one thing was the problem of other people. Among our couple friends, there was always the problem half, the one who we couldn’t imagine playing nice in a commune, a wife who didn’t really eat food,  a husband who spent Sundays watching sports, or the worst of them all, an entire couple where neither of them knew how to cook. We came up with a running, and inevitably, constantly changing list of four couples.

Forgive me. I was 28 years old. I never wondered for even a moment if the problem might eventually be one of us.

And so, our dream of a small-scale, post-suburban commune, preferably with us as its charismatic, all-knowing leaders, died every time we tried to extrapolate it out into its logical conclusions.

Oregon is absolutely the kind of place that attracts this kind of dreamer, people who have had alternatives and want the ideal, something intentional and self-built and self-created. Every time I hear about them I wonder if I shouldn’t sell the house, go live four-to-a-room in a 1910 farmhouse with ten other people in order to work less and have more time to read while someone I trust watches my kids and finally reach my daily nutritional requirements for pickled beets.

Just the other day I heard about a local bachelor utopia, where a group of 20-something men have taken it upon themselves to perfect the high arts of productive domesticity, in this case, living communally and developing a home canning business, with an emphasis on tangy, beet juice-spiked sauerkraut. I don’t know about you, but this is now my personal dream: to live in a house where a group of eight bearded men in their 20s clean house for me, grow me some squash and put up rows up rows of pink vegetables.

What about you? Do you harbor dreamy ideas of what your utopia might look like?


[1] Actually, though some thought they were referring to the seasonal allergies brought on by the area’s more aggressive allergens, they probably didn’t call it that until white settlers flooded their home, bringing with them pestilence and disease

Setting up a home perfume studio

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HouseWe have a decent-sized house — not too big, not too small — so you’d think I’d be able to find a place in a home to set up a mad scientist’s laboratory, no? You can’t be a home perfumer if you’re not doing it in your home, right?

But here’s the thing about home perfuming. If you’re doing it as a hobby, or even as an escape at the end of the day, after the hours of making puzzles, baking banana bread, prepping dinner, trips to the park, all of the fun of the afternoons, you’re going to need a space to spread out. I thought about trying this on my kitchen counter, but the idea of being able to look at all of the perfuming ingredients and materials while I went about the business of tending my children throughout the day just about broke my heart.

So I’ve been thinking long and hard about where I might set up shop inside of our house, a room where I could be able to drop the perfuming in an instant and return to it when I am ready and able. I could make a statement about needing A Room of One’s Own, but I’m pretty sure my husband might point to all of the other rooms I’ve co-opted already and remind me how he has pretty much been pushed into a lone bench in an overflowing garage.

I’ve finally settled on our laundry room as the place to set up my home perfume workshop. The laundry room has a lot of advantages. For one, it’s upstairs — not likely to get in the way of the real work I do here everyday in the kitchen. It has a great counter that I am not using at all. It has its own sink, which will soon cease to overflow with reusable Bum Geniuses. And since I’m going to be perfuming at night, when my children are sleeping and the washer and dryer are dormant, the chances of the room being flooded with the smell of laundry detergent are minimal.

Room of one’s own? Check.

In my quest to learn about home perfuming I will be working through Mandy Aftelier’s The Natural Perfume Workbook I, which has a handy list of items to order before you can jump into all of the sniffing and the mixing and the sifting and the inhaling. The list is helpful, but it doesn’t suggest where one might acquire some of these items, so I’m including links to the specific locations of the tools I’ve tracked down for my own studio.

Home Perfuming Supplies

In the name of transparency and information-sharing, I’m listing some of the items I’ve ordered, mostly from Amazon, to set up shop.

  • Fragrance Testing Strips 
    I wasn’t sure where to go for this particular tool, so I found some strips made specifically for fragrance testing on Amazon. As I interact with more perfumers I plan to learn where others source their materials.
  • 60 small bottles
    These seem like a decent size for the experiments listed in the book.
  • Labels
    God I love a good label.
  • 2 lb. beeswax
    This is, by all accounts, way more beeswax than you would need to make solid perfumes, but I got sucked in by the packaging.
  • Lip gloss jars
    Ms. Aftel’s book starts you out with solid perfumes (she says it’s easier to make a good solid perfume with fewer essences). So I’m starting with these simple plastic jars with the hope that within time I’ll find some suppliers that make a sexier little pot for my perfumes.
  • Bamboo scoop
    I’m not sure this is the right sized scoop — I’m looking for something that will hold about 5 drops of solid concretes — but I’ll find out when I get it.
  • Electric burner
    If I’m going to be working in the laundry room, I’m going to have to have a hotplate there with me.
  • Grater
    The grater will be to grate beeswax. I ordered one of the cheapest around, not thinking it important to have a super grater at this point. We’ll see if this works out for me.
  • Alcohol
    Ms. Aftel recommends 190 proof undenatured alcohol

Stirring rods: Picked up a couple of simple wooden bamboo chopsticks at the local Goodwill

This, of course, doesn’t even include all of the essential oils I’m ordering. Check back in soon for my next post, which will be about what essential oils I’m starting out with and to see how I’m transforming this space into my little second-floor smell station!

Have you set up a space anywhere in your house for your hobby?